For the ladies – How to find a guy.

hehe CheekyOldBat,

The other topic was more relevant to me :o) But the advice in those pastes- gawd.. The only useful ones were in the first part- the look good part.

kay henry

It was great for a Sunday smile SIS .. very inspiring to be sure! [:p]

Cheers,
A

” plays well with others
… but sometimes runs with scissors”

Pisces- it depends on what “behaving in a natural manner” means. If it means picking their nose whilst at dinner then I’d prefer they hold off a bit on their natural behaviour until I get to know them.

There’s a difference between affectation and being at your best. Beginning a relationship is like a job interview. You are hardly going to tell the employer at a job interview that you usually show up late to work, procrastinate like a mofo, etc… same with a relationship- you have to get the job first before you can slacken off.

I reckon the possibility for a love affair is the opportunity for self-improvement. If you want your partner to look good, you have to look good yourself. I dunno about “natural”- I prefer “makeover” :o))

kay henry

Kay I am not talking about make up but rather about the way one behaves.

Relax and being one’s unpretentious self. Don’t try to pretend, don’t tell stories about all the wonderful things one has achieved when it is very clear that it is all bulls..t

Also, being a good listener rather than a bulsh.t artist is another desireable quality.

I know women who are desperately looking for a partner and have done so for at least a couple of decades.

All they do is talk like a machine gun, ratatatatata.
I see fellows run away from them.

(It isn’t only men who are all talk and no listen as I am sure you are aware of Kay).

Pisces

Hi all
Interesting topic !!
My thoughts are there is no “magic” will not fail formula … so many variables like age groups to start with.
In the 40’s category so many of the folk I know have no hope in …!!!?? of finding just a somebody when they are glued to re runs of “Days of our lives” type stuff in dreamworld.
Their 4 cats and 5 dogs have also become their lives.
And often their computer cos nothing else to do …!!!
Things only come to folk that are out there and socially active. No one knocks at your door ad hoc for a date !!!
As a woman U also cannot grow til U are comfortable with being some time on your own…U then get a understanding of what compliments you. Often its when U are not “looking” ….someone special comes along.

I agree with the “grooming” comments thus far posted.
And the fact you need to be confident and content within yourself…

Like finding them mega cashflow properties…you have to work on it.

Regards

“Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail” Ralph Waldo Emerson